I spent my entire life searching for love, and most of the time I was disappointed and hurt. From the time I was only a kid to my adulthood, and into my mid-life, I felt I was going round in a circle and had learned nothing about love at all. Until I have my dog Champagne three years ago, (in fact I longed for a dog since I was a kid), I learned all about love from a dog, and that kind of love is unconditional. There and then I know that for us human, when we talk about love, we are fooling ourselves and other people. How much do we actually know about love?

To me, the most immature kind of love is the love between men and women. A lot of time, we want to be loved more than we want to love, or at least we expect everything to be reciprocated. If it did not happen that way, we felt hurt, disappointed and being cheated. When I came to think about this, love to most people is just a deal, a bargain. I love you subject to this and that. There are always some conditions attached.

I am just one of these people not until I have kept a puppy three years ago. I love him, just as simple as that. He makes me happy and even he annoys me, I love him all the same. I just want the best for him. And if someone loves him more, I won’t feel jealous but only grateful, and want him to share more of their love. It was only then that I realized when you really love somebody, your love can be unconditional and not possessive. You won’t throw your tantrum, or return the same bitter ‘favour’ simply because he/she does not fulfill your expectation. I mean when you still feel that way, perhaps you have to rethink. Your love to someone may not as deep as you claim/thought. Since then, I would only appreciate an unconditional love, either to others or others unto me. And only you can give your love unconditionally can you feel it the same way from other people, i.e. he may not say a lot on how much you meant to him, but you know he does through his act, and not merely words. This is the deepest kind of love.